"Discover why moving on isn't about forgetting the past, but accepting it. A soulful journey through Literature, Faiz’s poetry, and Quranic wisdom. From Sabr to Shukar."

Past Ko Bhoolna Kyun Zaroori Nahi? A Journey from Sabr to Shukar

​Psychology ka ek bada dilchasp usool hai—hamara dimaag kisi chiz ko jitna bhulana chahta hai, wo chiz utni hi shiddat se yaad aati hai. Chaliye ek chota sa imtehaan (experiment) karte hain...

​Apni aankhein band kijiye aur khud se kahiye ki, 'Mujhe bilkul nahi sochna ki mere samne ek aam ka ghana ped hai, aur main uski thandi chhaon (shadow) mein baithi hoon.'

​Dekha aapne? Maine kaha tha aisa mat sochiye, lekin aapke dimaag ne wahi manzar (scene) create kar diya jo main mana kar rahi thi. Pata hai aisa kyun hota hai? Kyunki insaani dimaag ko bandishein pasand nahi. Jab hum khud se kehte hain ki 'ye nahi sochna', toh dimaag usi par focus karne lagta hai. Literature ki zubaan mein ise hi 'Imagery' kehte hain—jahan alfaaz aapki ankhon ke samne tasveerein bana dete hain.

Sab ki life mein kabhi na kabhi ek aisa phase aata hai jab zindagi be-maayne lagne lagti hai. Har kisi ke past mein kuch na kuch aisa dard hota hai jo hamare subconscious mind mein baith jata hai; usse jude sapne aate hain, mano dil mein koi trauma baith gaya ho. Zaruri nahi ki ye trauma sirf kisi breakup ka ho, ye kuch bhi ho sakta hai—bachpan ka koi hadsa, kisi khwahish ka adhuri reh jana, ya sabse gehra dukh: apne kisi "Dil-e-Aziz" ki maut.

Aksar log kehte hain, "Apne past ko bhool ke aage badho." Lekin main baith kar sochti hoon ki kya waqai apna past bhulana mumkin hai? Hum jin galiyon se guzre, jin kitabon ko kisi ke saath milkar padha, aur jin rishton mein humne apna 'thoda sa hissa' chhod diya—kya unhe bhoolna khud ko bhoolna nahi hoga?

Literature mein bhi nostalgia ko ek "Sweet Pain" kaha gaya hai. Breakup ho ya kisi purani dosti ka tootna, woh dard isliye nahi hota ki hum kamzor hain, balki isliye hota hai kyunki humne sachaai se jiya tha. Past se bhaagna zaroori nahi hai, balki use gale lagakar aage badhna hi asli zindagi hai.

The Turning Point: Faiz and the Reality of Life

Azeem shayer Faiz Ahmed Faiz ki wo mashhoor nazm "Mujhse Pehli Si Mohabbat Mere Mehboob Na Maang" ki ye lines mujhe bahut sukoon deti hain:

 "Aur bhi dukh hain zamane mein mohabbat ke siwa,

  Rahatein aur bhi hain vasl ki raahat ke siwa."

Iska matlab hai ki duniya mein sirf "mohabbat" ya "ishq ka dard" hi sab kuch nahi hai. Zindagi mein aur bhi bahut bade masle, zimmedariyan aur sukoon ke raaste hain. Faiz humein samjhate hain ki hamara dukh bada hai, par duniya aur hamari apni kabliyat usse kahin zyada badi hai.

The Library of Memories

Hamara past ek purani library ki tarah hai. Hum un kitabon ko roz nahi padhte, par wo shelf par rehti hain aur humein batati hain ki humne kya-kya seekha. William Wordsworth ka ek concept hai—"Emotion recollected in tranquility." Wo kehte hain ki jab hum shanti se baith kar purane jazbaaton ko yaad karte hain, tabhi hum asli "Art" aur "Life" samajh paate hain.

Zindagi ke kisi bhi failure ya breakup ko "End" ki tarah nahi, balki ek "Chapter" ki tarah dekhein. Kitaab wahi rehti hai, bas panna palat jata hai. Ise "Acceptance" kehte hain, aur yakeen maniye, 'Give up' karne se behtar 'Accept' karna hai.

Jab hum acceptance seekh lete hain, tab humein ehsaas hota hai ki hamari khushi kisi aur par depend nahi karti. Is par maine apne ek pichle blog [You Are Enough For Yourself] mein detail se baat ki hai, jise aap yahan padh sakte hain.

Spiritual Healing: Sabr aur Tawakkul

Jab hum thak jaate hain, toh Quran humein raasta dikhata hai. Quran kehta hai ki jo guzar gaya, wo Allah ki marzi thi. Hum aksar "Agar-Magar" (If and only if) mein phase rehte hain, lekin Quran humein is 'Regret' se nikalta hai. Jo hua wo ek sabaq (lesson) tha. Past ko 'Allah ki Hikmat' samajh kar accept kar lena hi sukoon ka raasta hai.

Surah At-Tawbah (9:40) mein Allah farmata hai:

لَا تَحْزَنْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ مَعَنَا (Gham na kar, beshak Allah hamare saath hai)

Ye aayat past ke dukh se nikalne ki sabse badi taqat hai. Allah ne past mein jo bhi cheez aap se li, wo shayad aapko kisi bade nuksan se bachane ke liye ya behtar banane ke liye thi. Quran past ko bhoolne ke liye nahi, usse 'Ibrat' (lesson) lene ke liye kehta hai. Agar aapne dard saha hai, toh wo aapko 'Strong' aur 'Empathetic' banane ke liye tha.

Allah ki nazron mein hum sab barabar hain aur har kisi ka imtihan alag hai. Agar aap Islam mein insaani barabri aur huqooq ko aur gehrai se samajhna chahte hain, toh mera ye article [Is Men and Women Equal in Islam?] zaroor padein.

Nayi Shuruat: Sabr se Shukar tak

Allah ki rehmat se kabhi mayoos na hon. Har din ek nayi shuruat ka mauka hai. Yaadon se darna chhodein; unhe ek purani tasveer ki tarah dil ke ek kone mein rehne dein, par unhe aaj ka rasta na rokne dein.

Agar aapne past mein kisi ke saath ek lamha bhi sukoon ka bitaya hai, toh us ehsaas ki respect karein. Log bure nahi hote, bas unki kuch aadatein ya halaat bure hote hain. Kisi shakhs, jagah, saal ya maah (month) se nafrat na palein. Apne dil ko nafrat se siyah (kala) na hone dein. Allah se 'Astagfar' karte rahein, isse dil refine hota rehta hai. Apni niyat saaf rakhein, Insha Allah aapka safar jald hi "Sabr se Shukar tak" pahunch jayega.

Conclusion: "Past ko bhoolna 'Moving On' nahi hai, past ko accept karke muskura dena 'Moving On' hai." Khud se kahein—"Main main hoon, aur meri har yaad meri taqat hai."

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Let's discuss: "Kya aapke paas bhi koi aisi yaad hai jise log bhulane ko kehte hain, par aapne use sambhaal kar rakha hai? Comment mein zarur batayein."

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About the Author

I am Shariya—a seeker of peace, a lover of literature, and a storyteller of the soul. Through my blog, I bridge the gap between classic literature and the raw emotions of everyday life. I believe that every heartbreak is a chapter and every memory is a teacher. Join me as I navigate life, one reflection at a time, moving from Sabr to Shukar.

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